![]() Either way it won't end well but it definitely has to stop now. I'm aware he will probably lie if he has or he will feel very offended. I am trying to really not obsess over this but I can't wait to ask him if he's done any more of this. This thing happened on Tuesday, (learning about the email) and I have been super paranoid all week about him having sent more emails in the past without me knowing so. I know it's a bit unfair not to tell him that he's out before he submits his work but I feel like if I had this conversation with him today he would snap and cause a massive dramatic situation I don't have the energy for. I haven't formally told him that he's not coming back because we have two recording days booked next week that are quite a big deal. Yes I think the decision has now been made. My bandmates all love his sound but they're started to feel a bit bored of him always being a "subject we need to talk about".Īny input on this situation would be super appreciated. Has anyone been in the situation where a band member randomly contacts the promoters without running it through the band? I'm just so shocked and haven't got any experience with such things. I am worried if I kick him out I won't find a good musician like him but I also worry that if he continues like this he's going to totally destroy the project down the line. When he is on stage he's fantastic, it's just the time between each gig that he becomes such a difficult responsibility. but I'm still mortified and worried that we have looked so unprofessional to this massive company.Īnyway, the guy is an incredibly talented keys and synth player which is why we haven't kicked him out yet. I replied to the booker saying that my bandmate acted of his own accord and that this is not the consensus of the band. I am still terrified thinking what if he's been emailing venues behind my back singing as myself and basically sabotaging our career? My bandmate didn't even bother to add me to the conversation nor he mentioned anything. I only found out about this because the concert promoter then CCd me in his response. He made us look so ungrateful and I'm so so embarrassed and worried that he's ruined our reputation. The email had no punctuation marks, it was agressive and frankly quite mad. absolutely shocking email to the concert promoter on behalf of the band, saying that we had a horrible time and that the venue was a shithole and the sound engineer rude etc and public liability this and that. However, the morning after the gig he did something that really made me change my mind and made me feel like I might have to just kick him out of the band altogether: at 8am he sent an. He is an excellent piano player and perfomer, just very shit at relationships. ![]() We played a gig on Monday and it was just fine. The conversation seemed very positive for both of us and he seemed like he was going to really benefit from that time apart and we would probably come out stronger as a band if/when he sorted his life a bit. This was partly initiated by him but im also quite supportive of him going away for a while. I had a really serious chat with him about suggesting taking a break from the band for a month or so while he sorts out his mental health. He also has the most disorganised life ever: not getting up before 4pm, his phone always off, disorderd eating patterns, severe communication problems, chronic tardiness etc, which makes it very difficult to work with him. He has been very intimidated by the process, showing serious signs of insecurity, power and ego issues (like not wanting to collaborate with someone else to do synth parts, getting in the way of the producer, unprofessional communication etc). He is the sweetest guy and I had no problem with giving him the extra support and being flexible up until we hired a producer to record our songs last month. The keys player is having a slow burn breakdown, he has a diagnosis for anxiety and depression and I have always had to give him that little extra love that he needs to get through. I have been gigging with my own originals band since January (about two gigs a month) and though it's been quite good overall and going into recording our first few singles, I have had an intense time with interpersonal relationships in the band. Hi all, just posting here for some advice Like should I email the venue again to tell them he's not working with us anymore? How do I cleanse our name and re assure them that we are good folk to work with? Thank you! -_. ![]() I have two recording sessions with the keys guy next week and I'm kind of feeling like not kicking him out til he's done that? Also, im still very paranoid about this nasty email he's sent the promoters. Edit: Wow such amazing response and help, thanks everyone! I'm reading all your comments and taking it all in, it's giving me plenty of perspective.
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